I want my marriage to work and the db counselor told me that distance and separation only breed more distance. ia m trying very hard to find a way back to new york that would be healthy for me and my marriage as well but having little luck anyone have success in this why apart. in different states?

My husbands main complaint about me was that i am not the same person i was when we feel in love who was successful and outgoing so i don't see how moving there and not finding work going broke is going to save my marriage i have opportunities where i am to be a professional again trying hard to find something in new york just no luck so far.

also it is not somewhere i would choose to be if he were not in the picture. any advice. yes. i know i have another topic thread by the way but wanted help with this particular question.

any advise would be really appreciated.

hope all is well and everyone manages to survive the holidays.

m: 32 H:33
T:7
M:4


7/12 says he might want out
8/12 find out about ow he wants a D
9/12 he says he loves me not here wants me back
9/12 he pull away
11/12 still separated