To end my post I spent the last day and a half thinking more and I've decided I'll never be able to trust her so I'm no longer trying to reconcile the marriage. Spent yesterday with friends who enlightened me to a few other things she's done over the years. One guy said it was killing him not telling me his story but I was always so gung-ho to have a good marriage he didn't want to ruin it. Little disappointed in him but I understand where he was coming from (I doubt I would have believed him anyway because I always gave her the benefit of the doubt...). Just feels like last 20 years of my life were a lie and I'm really worried about my kids. I have a strong family and friend network and will continue to work on myself so I know I'll be fine. I'll also do everything possible to ensure my kids have the best dad they can and pray God watches over them during the other times.
Good luck to all you guys still fighting the fight. I pray that it works out best for each of you.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
