I don't think I know the meaning of detaching as it's used on this site, the meaning that is true to the definition as it is written by BDing.

If this is detaching it feels more like moving forward, trying to dig myself out, looking ahead with myself in mind.

I went as far as telling my kids it's going to start being about me now, your all adults, I will always be here for you, but I have to come into play now and be able to live a happy life.

I can't believe how adult kids (oxymoron) complain about needing them to act like adults. Them I can control...I left them the house, told them to clean it, buy some groceries and cook dinner. Now that was easy!

I'm just coming back from a midnight movie with D18 (team edward) and as I'm sitting there I realize I like being out again, late night. Granted it was a theater filled with young girls, but I wasn't home, sad, sitting in a zombie state worrying about H.

It's good D quality time first and foremost!

Tomorrow I'm going to try to drive to my cousins house (my age) and see if they want to go for dinner. I guess I can start with family as a stepping stone for learning to be without H. Hey, I met H though a cousin, so having 10 of them does put me in some kind of circle.

The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!