Just caught up on your sitch. You are getting great advice here. From where I stand this R talk didn't go half as badly as you may think. I think you are doing all the right moves and if your W is getting angrier it's because you are taking away her justification for wanting to leave.
My W also told me that by doing what I'm doing it's making it more difficult for her. I felt like telling her that if it's that difficult to leave maybe she should just reconsider but I didn't.
You are doing great mate. You are showing good DB skills. Keep it up!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then