I placed too much of a burden on HER for MY happiness...ie, if she was unhappy, so was I. If she was unavailable for whatever reason, I "suffered". When she was depressed and not available, I was hurt and such, and she felt horrible that I was, adding to her depression
I too was guilty of this personality, probably still am just not as strong, I'm learning everyday.
But, I had to learn that this was even a problem, because in our happy R this was a non-excitant issue. It was brought to surface once I felt the pull of separation, once I felt threatened and went into crazy, he has to love me, what's wrong with me mode!
Thank goodness for time, time to learn, heal, and grow!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
