seeking, I went back to 2006 and found a posting from TMAK and it does appear that her h returned home. I'll keep digging to see what else I find, but in the meantine here is what she posted:
"YR and AID: to your question if my husband said I Love you when he came home....He did the night he asked me if he could come home. He never had a problem saying it to me...the only thing that he did not want to do at first was to make love. He had such guilt feelings about it, he wasn't sure how I was going to react....but that lasted for only about a week when I let him know that I was fine with it. He let me tell him exactly how I felt about the whole thing and I did tell him but not angrily. He was totally good about it.
But I would not be too worried about it right now as I have heard others say the say thing that it was hard for their husband's to say I love you at first. Please remember, when they first come home they are still trying to get it all together, they are also so filled with guilt and are still feeling you out for your reactions to things. Take it slow, YR, it will all come together....the more he feels comfortable with you, the more he will relax, and you relax as much as you can as well...sometimes it did feel like I was walking on eggshells, but time lessened that. You are getting to know each other again, there are hurts to get over, you both have gone thru big changes and even though you belong together, it is a learning lesson.
Best advice...be patient(again)...don't be too hard on yourself if you still have feelings of "untrust"....he has a lot to earn back, and he will......be friends, the husband and wife team will be renewed in time.
God Bless You!!!!
TMAK2"
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
