Yesterday she dropped by to pick up a couple small things. Had a nice chat for half an hour. Good mood, nice tone, but she seemed to distance everytime we got to friendly/jokingly. Nice change of pace, her being calm and friendly.
Today, she calls me at work, telling me she wants to drop by again so I can sign some documents, but doesn't want to tell me what. (huh?). After I ask her again she tells me it's more papers relating to our separation Now, she suddenly switches back to moody/irritated and gives me a bit of an attitude.
So I guess I counter DB'ed
I decided I'm done with taking that chit. When she came I let her in and she commented that I seemed to be angry/upset.
(I was a bit short and not to big on smiles, but not angry)
I kept it short and down to business. After the docs was signed she probably understood I was not interested in chit chatting and got ready to leave. I told her S had been doing fine and was a gem like always, smiled and said goodbye.
Not DB, I know. But right now I had to "make a point" for me.
-She told me S had been sick, but she didn't tell me b/c she didn't want me to worry. (Well it worries me a lot more that she doesn't tell me things like that).
-She has her mood swings.
-While I may (hopefully) have changed, she doesn't seem to have changed much at all.
Hope seems scarce, and while I haven't dropped the rope yet, today I just needed her to stay away. I need to respect myself. That being said, I should have explained to her how I needed space and didn't want to chit chat instead of acting the way I did. Cold/distant without any explanation. I did what felt right, but in a wrong way.
Any thoughts??
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
