I assume every case is different and state. But what is fair if we could keep this friendly between us? Maybe that is not possible with the legal side of D. Just trying to protect myself and the kids,
My W and I discussed this early on and are both on board with a peaceful settlement. In our state you can file all the paperwork yourselves with no L involved at all as long as you both agree on the terms. So that's what we discussed, we're not even planning on going to mediation.
I received a ton of advice early on to get a L right away, I chose not to because I felt like that would harm our chances of reconciling. Clearly some people need to because their spouse is not cooperative, but in our case we've had no trouble resolving things.
That said, we haven't discussed D in months and I certainly won't be bringing it up unless I decide to drop the rope. I have no idea if W is wanting to pursue it or not and I'm not going to ask!
