Put your hands up; it's a wild ride

[someguy1233]

SG did you ask her to skip the happy hour? It seems like she took it upon herself to not go. Perhaps being clear with communication is what was missing. Her anger is for her to deal with. You could have offered to watch your S but she also could have asked you if you minded watching him. Again a lack of clear communication on both of your parts. I wouldnt worry about it too much. If she brings it up you can explain that you two weren't very clear and leave it at that.

I didn't ask her to skip the happy hour. She made the decision on her own. If she had asked, I would have watched S.

Your W really seems confused as to what she really wants in regards to work. Tell her you support whatever decision she makes. She has to figure that out for herself.

You're right. I'll continue to let her go down that path on her own. I don't mind whatever she chooses to do for work. A part of me wishes she would stay home so S wouldn't spend so much time in daycare... but I guess I also wish she'd choose this path because it would mean she's at least somewhat interested in our relationship.

Your W seems angry at times and its quite possible she may not respect you especially with her being sarcastic about you needing to get your sleep. Again there isn't anything you can do about her anger its hers to deal with. She took it upon herself not to come to you for help with with him. You said the right thing telling her she could have came to you for help. Its her problem she didn't not yours. If she brings it up again tell her she can come to you for help with him that you don't mind helping and leave it at that.

I think you're right. She doesn't respect me when I'm sick/tired/etc. She thinks I'm a baby at those times. She feels like she has to pickup all the slack in those instances. Over the years I've tried to explain multiple times that I'll do all that I can, and whatever doesn't get done is fine... I'll take care of stuff when I'm feeling better. She doesn't agree and feels I should just power through.