Apology accepted, Melissa. I wasn't upset, you just needed to be in a place to hear what was being said.
Nothing new here. I haven't heard from H. So apparently his need to do nothing has overcome his need to "get things settled".
Am I surprised? No. He'll wait for me to assume my old role as The Expeditor.
I did have to email him about arrangements for him to pick up our sons on T-giving day. We are all going to be out-of-town in the same town and the sons won't have a car to go meet him so he has to pick them up.
He didn't respond.
I had some anger this past week but at the same time I feel sad for him, he's so uncomfortable. I know someone will say, and rightly so: Mind-reading.
But he is unsettled, because when I communicate with him it forces him to have some kind of feeling, an emotion that he then has to stuff.
Not a happy way to live.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Bug- Do you find he is resentful of you getting to feel those emotions? I think my H is. I'm not sure. It could be guilt but he will hang up on me if I show any emotion at all. Screams at me to stop if I get upset or start crying. It's dumb. What upsets me most is how emotionless he is and I tend to over compensate. Hmm. Just wondered if you had noticed that with yourself.
this is an interesting topic and observation, bug... i find that my W tends to be emotional when she is with me and i think that she uses the distance from me to avoid and stuff them otherwise.. i am with you in feeling grateful that i can grown to where i can have my emotions, feel them fully and float through them. it was nice to be reminded of that today, bug.. thanks.
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
I've been watching Doc Martin episodes on Netflix. Anyone else watch it?
It's set in a small town in Cornwall, and I think I got hooked on the beautiful exterior shots. Doc is a surgeon who had to leave his busy practice in London because he developed a career ending malady for a surgeon, he gets sick at the sight of blood.
So now he's a GP in this picturesque little village. The last episode I watched last night had him marrying the cute school headmistress, a loving, giving woman.
He however, is an emotionally unavailable, rude, narcissist.
A match made in he!!, no doubt.
I guess it's not really a diversion.
But the scenery is beautiful.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I've been watching Doc Martin episodes on Netflix. Anyone else watch it?
It's set in a small town in Cornwall, and I think I got hooked on the beautiful exterior shots. Doc is a surgeon who had to leave his busy practice in London because he developed a career ending malady for a surgeon, he gets sick at the sight of blood. Physically tossing his cookies, ill.
So now he's a GP in this picturesque little village. The episode I watched last night had him marrying the cute school headmistress, a loving, giving, empathetic woman.
He however, is an emotionally unavailable, rude, narcissist.
A match made in he!!, no doubt.
I guess it's not really a diversion.
But the scenery is beautiful.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
OK so to update on the situation in the picturesque Cornish fishing village...
They didn't get married,(I had fallen asleep before the end)she came to her senses, left him at the altar, well actually they left each other, and she moved to London.
That was the season finale. In the first Ep of the next season she came back from London where she moved after the b/u and is preggers with his baby.
Ohhhh the drama.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
