I've read through the last two pages of posts here.
What caught my eye was the synchronicity in the information you received about OW. And the spew.
Im so glad you received this information about OW. Sounds like she's got quite the reputation. I too live in a small town, so word spreads like wildfire so I understand this. Same with the OW in my sitch. Some people seem to think she's nice, but as you get to know her it seems people run in the other direction. My SIL is one of the most patient people that gets along with everyone or makes a point of it. She can overlook alot... sometimes too much. When SIL told me she was "done" with OW, I knew it had to be pretty bad! LOL!
The alien venom spew.... it's just shocking at times. I too experienced the accusations, scathing texts and emails, and oh yes XH went whimpering to family about how horrible I was to him and that I was using parental alienation on my kids. This was all last Thanksgiving. Oh he had OW and his cousin telling him he needed t seek sole custody of the girls because of this!
At any rate, I too was given some important information about OW from someone I didn't know from ADAM! I feel this is divine intervention! Always pay attention to little signs, because they're there! I remember that day, it was so bad, I was so down. And I said this prayer to the Lord. I prayed that even though I knew it was my ego that needed stroking, I sure would like some info or proof that the sitch between OW and XH was not a bed of roses.
About an hour later, the delievery man that comes to where I work was dropping off some stuff. AS I was signing and checking pacakages, we got into a conversation about our X's. I mentioned I was going through a divorce. This guy was old enough to be my father and was a local man though I never had seen him before. He went on to tell me a little about his painful divorce (oh poor man I really felt for him) and then he asked if he knew who my XH was. As I told him where XH used to work HE IMMEDIATELY KNEW THE SITUATION AND THE OW INVOLVED.
As it turns out this man had a long lasting battle with OW in regards to OW's son cheating his son out of some money, and they were trying to collect it. He said " That woman is a piece of work. All she wants is money and if your H has any money that's why she's there, and he won't have it by the time she's done with him".
That made me feel alot better....and guess what? It's semi ringing true. XH is broke, and she had to get a job. I think a good reason they may remain together is that they're both gaming addicts and want a constant gaming buddy, so they stay together.Their cirlce of friends do not live to game. OW lived off unemployment for 2+ years gaming and having her children and last boyfriend support her.
