The Lure of the Siren

[Arsene]

Short Interaction with W again today as she dropped off D8. A bit of spewing again over getting the car for a few days. I had to calmly tell W that we could just talk about this and that it didn't need to be a problem. She eventually calmed down.

I then went to practice my guitar and W eventually left. D8 ran pass me to her room with tears in her eyes. I let her for a bit and went in to comfort her. At times like these, I resent W for hurting our D8. None of this had to happen. She is being selfish and it's hard to keep on loving the person she has become.

There was also another issue over W getting D8 again on Sunday when it had clearly been agreed that she would be with me. We'd planned to go and get her new hamsters (the ones W got her died after a day and the cage has been sitting there empty since then). Initially, W said she couldn't take D8 because of her concert (the big gig) but today, they were talking about her picking D8 up. I mentioned that D8 and I had plans already and there D8 said that we could always get the hamsters on another day. That hurt me a bit, I have to admit.

The issue was not resolved and later, I got a text from W telling me that D8 really wanted to watch her play and that unless I had other considerations she thought it would be ok.

I don't want D8 to become part of some power struggle between me and W. I just wish she stuck to what she says, or at least agreed to talk about it in person with me instead of making plans with D8 without running them by me first.

My W's gig in on a Sunday night. By her own admission, she will start playing anytime between 7 and 9 and since it's a big billing, I'm sure she'll want to stick around and meet people. Who's going to take care of D8 while she's on stage? How late will D8 go to bed that night? Will she be ok waking up at 5 am the next morning to go to school?

D8 stayed with W last night because she wanted to see W play. Today was a school holiday so staying up late was fine. It turns out W dropped her off at friends' instead of taking her with her to her gig (D8 told me about it). So D8 spent the whole evening with the friend's kid while W was working. I'm sure D8 doesn't mind but I hate that now W tells me again that D8 wants to watch her play.

I just sent W a text telling her about my concerns re: who's going to take care of D8 while W's working (as opposed to last night's gig which is in a small cafe, Sunday's gig is an outdoor gig and a major production with a big crowd expected) and how late D8 will go to bed as it is a school night. I did say that if W really wanted to see D8 on Sunday she could during the day but I thought it would be better if she missed the concert. I also mentioned that W is probably not going to want to leave early after her gig. I also said that D8 had seen her the night before anyway (even if I now know that she hasn't). I then asked her what she thought.

I still haven't received an answer.