Thanks AJ and dawnmarie - I am back to a much better mood today not sure why mood swings surprise me. I have never been overly emotional so all this drama is new to me. But I am back to believing that right now I'm where I need to be. H's issues are for him to figure out. If I guilt him into staying ( or coerce him in any way) it won't be a good marriage. He hasn't been a great husband (or father) for a while. He kept blaming it on work stress but I see now that he had other issues as well. And if he decides its not worth working on to create a great marriage with me then I do deserve better. I deserve some who treasures me not just settles for me. Maybe it will be H and maybe not. I really am focused on doing what is best for my kids. As I told my friend, I will do what is best for them - if that benefits H then so be it. And I know that having a good relationship with him is good for them. I'm just not always sure how to do that. Brokenheart71 Me 40 (for a few more weeks) H 40 (for a couple more days) He moved out two weeks ago yesterday
not sure why mood swings surprise me. I have never been overly emotional so all this drama is new to me. But I am back to believing that right now I'm where I need to be. H's issues are for him to figure out. If I guilt him into staying ( or coerce him in any way) it won't be a good marriage. He hasn't been a great husband (or father) for a while. He kept blaming it on work stress but I see now that he had other issues as well. And if he decides its not worth working on to create a great marriage with me then I do deserve better. I deserve some who treasures me not just settles for me. Maybe it will be H and maybe not.