Oh you guys!! Thank you so much! I feel like Im losing my mind today and I can't tell you how much it means to come here and get support! I wish we could all just get together in person, cause I really need to give out some hugs to everyone here!. Everyone here is my life line Honestly my closest friends really don't "get it" like everyon here does. But that's because they're not in this exact situation. It means so much to hear from you. I can't thank you enough!
MLCers are toxic people.
I have asked my SIL if she thinks XH is aware of just how his girls are being treated by OW. She looked at me and said she honestly could not tell or doesn't know. I asked her if BIL said anything about it and her response was " Oh no. You do not talk to XH about OW." Which indicated to me that BIL has tried to say something and XH gave out a little spew to him too!I do know BIL, SIL and myself all have the same question. If your girlfriend treats your children like that, there's something awfully wrong there.
I noticed XH has been very talkative and nice, yet as confusing as hell. Confusing as in he's telling D9 one thing, me the other and NOTHING to D13. Or He'll tell me one thing, and the girls nothing. WEll he just took one week vacation to stay home and game non stop for 7-8 days because of the new Wow Expansion. He's high! Higher than a kite! It's been a while since I've seen him on a really good high... and this one's a doozie. Avoiding reality in fantasy games is his drug of choice. The last expansion was 2-3 years ago. That might've been the last time I saw him temporarily happy. His other high and drug of choice is food binging, then feeling depressed he's overweight. When the gaming addiction came along, sex was about #3 or #4 on his list's of "highs". It used to be #1.
You guys I just don't know. I honestly thing XH is a narcissist at times. Other's I just think he's got bi polar disorder and serious mental health issues, not that narcissim isn't a mental health disorder. But I can say that XH is aware he does this. He knows he detatched from reality. And He's told me he doens't understand why he does the things he does.
Aside of whatever's wrong with him, I still have to deal with him. And I guess Im just still sore from the wounds. I know better than to allow his antics to get me in an uproar, but I just look at him and think " REALLY?"
What still makes me go bezerk is him literally acting like nothing is wrong, or everything that went down south as far as the fighting and divorce, and other woman, and damn near DYING, NEVER HAPPENED.
I really appreciate your advice. I never do push the girls to stay with XH. The routine is they stay with him every 2 weeks on his days off now. It's much easier. I don't want my girls around that woman, I just don't. Nobody does.
Good call Snodderly, I appreciate your scope on the alterior motive she possibly may have.
Thank you so much! I feel like Im losing my mind today and I can't tell you how much it means to come here and get support! 