DETACH!!!! This is first and foremost the thing you need to do... Stop the "hookups", begging, initiation of contact etc.. Still be there lovingly but not in the same way you have been..
Get rid of the MC you have been seeing... If it has been that long with no results IMO its the WRONG MC for you two... I have been blessed to have found a "pro marriage" MC locally and she has done WONDERS in untangling the crazy web W and I have spun and offering solutions. We see progress where we NEVER saw with our previous MC.
Read LOTS of books in addition to DB DR.
5 Love Languages I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You [edited by dbmod: reference not recommended nor allowed]were three that helped me immensely.
Next start getting back to things which you may have given up which make you happy. Hobbies, Old friends etc...
Call a DB coach, same price as a therapist with MUCH more to offer in these situations...
There is ALWAYS hope, that you can get back together, that you can change, that you can enjoy life just as much if not more than you ever thought you could...
Last edited by dbmod; 11/19/1201:35 AM.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
