Do I Have a Chance?

[kat727]

I am so sorry that you find yourself here. Having gone through this, it is one of the most devasting experiences that I have been through.

Before you do anything regarding your H, please know that you can only control you. You can only change you. So with that in mind, think about what changes would you want to make in your life to make it better for you. Is there something that you stopped doing because he didn't like it? Is there something that you have wanted to learn but haven't gotten around to it yet?

Next please do not contact your husband unless it has to do with your kids or something urgent with the house. He has a lot to figure out and work on himself. He does NOT know this. He will keep blaming you as long as you keep contacting him. Keep your focus on you.

As for hope...I would like to think there is always hope. The odds aren't good but you will never know if you don't try. Personally I think DB is a path to save yourself and get through this time. I hope that you can put your marriage back together but it will take time and the patience of a saint.

kat