Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

[Just A Guy]

A.S. I think you are on a good path on letting W "stew" a little on the Holiday plans...

As for the fear that we will move on and then W decides to come back, I fear this as well. In fact W told me this past MC session that "It would be so hard for her to leave and see you figure your sh!t out with someone else". It was a shock to hear and even more motivated to prove that I can change right now. I do know this though, I have soooooooo many mutual friends who have re-married and are happier than they ever have been. Thats not to say that they do not miss part of their former partnerships but they have all told me that they are better people because of the change.

There is no such thing as a "soulmate" or and "only one", time and time again I see this proven right in front of me.

However as of last MC session my sitch took a nice turn to the good, I didn't expect it to happen especially after W being so cold since returning from her "retreat". I will tell you now that even though she might be the ice queen right now my W is proof that anyone can thaw especially if we show a TRUE positive direction.

I have enjoyed reading your sitch and how you deal with your daily surprises. It is very motivating to see on here someone who is maintaining as well as you are. Thanks for all your help and when I can return the favors I will.. Your posts motivate me to get my lazy a$$ in gear some days... Keep it up!