For me the more I feel I am detaching the easier it is to not let the hot/cold affect me. It is easier to keep a PMA around my w. I also am really seeing the irony in her actions and attitude towards me. She wanted out, now she is out and I am still the bad guy. On top of that I am nothing but nice to her.
When you can step back, you will be able to really start to understand why they are hot/cold and angry. I believe it is all about justification for their actions. They believe we are the bad guys no matter what we do.
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