SunnyBurst- I have been with my H since I was 21yrs old (that's 24yrs) and probably only secure in the knowledge that I loved him and felt at home with him. Over the yrs, with babies and mortgages love grows up, becomes more mature in it's needs, and expectations, but hopefully you never loose that initial raw simple feeling that started the seed to grow. I understand that we all should probably be a little more secure for ourselves but even those of us who are strong in character need that seed planted in us that the love of another offers. I'm not saying I'm a mess, but I do miss how H made me feel that for "him", I was a light in his heart.
Every way you describe your W is how my H is acting and I myself have had to recoil from his manic way. "OPPOSITE of what they used to be." Yes, that's the rub!
I do not have intensions of going anywhere, but I am going to read up on someone's suggestion that I may becoming a WAS. Tired of being a LBS I may be moving forward. I take it a WAS can be figurative for me as well as H, as he hasn't left home.
I have been nothing but kind, understanding and validating toward my H, to help facilitate a positive outcome from all of this for everyone, whatever that may be, because ILH.
I have to learn to be many things for myself now, it's been a flood of emotions for me over the last 1 1/2 yrs. I welcome your thoughts and prays for the strength to continue forward!
Hey, Nero darling! I hope your enjoying these posts. I know your learning everyday as well as I am to be happy without the H's we had, and how to be with the H's left behind. Hope and prayer!
That sounds awesome - we gotta be WARRIORS like T2 says !!
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
