Sounds like some standard mlc modus operandi... -blame spouse -see self as victim -forget ANYthing done or said by spouse -see self as victim -be passive aggressive -see self as victim ...ad nauseum... The wondering if you are going to serve him is maybe a bunch of projecting onto you so HE is not the bad person. Stay strong! T^2
T2 would you answer the email or just ignore it ???
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
I am not sure, to be honest. if I did I might reply with something like:
"Oh, you and I know about D1, D2 and my accounts ending with 1234, 2345, 3456. I know of no others."
I'd leave the "I'm sorry that you don't want to work together on this. I guess if you think it's better to give away thousands of dollars that we don't have to lawyers then there is nothing I can do about it. Do you mind telling me who you have as a lawyer and if I am going to be served papers?" alone.
He has gone on and on barking up this tree. Sounds like he's trying to goad her into something, maybe he is saving off her responses for HIS L. Though I can be paranoid, when someone keeps hammering me trying to get me to agree/admit/whatever something, it bodes ill and experience has shown that they tend to have ulterior motives. Just my opinion...
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
TJP, I think your h is trying to push your buttons with these text messages. He has asked the same questions about the bank account in three different ways. He has now asked about divorce papers twice. You know what I would do? Sit on that text message and not respond back to him any time soon. If he sends another one asking the same questions again, I would say "H, I've already addressed the account and the serving of divorce papers in my text of 11/ /12. Please refer back to that text message."
I would love to jerk his chain. He's just being a PIA and he's hoping is that if he bugs you enough, you'll tell him everything he wants to know and also push you into filing. You've already addressed these issues w/him and you do not need to do so again.
BTW, I think you have gone beyond the 100 postings...you may want to begin a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.