W came home from work last night and barely said two words to me. This morning wasn't any better got the cold shoulder after trying to initiate small talk. Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions as to what my counselor suggested?
Do you mean this part?
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I read it to my counselor and he thought it was very good. He thinks I should wait a few days and ask her what she thinks of my text. He also suggested that I tell her that I love her and that I'm willing to put in the work to create a new/ better marriage. If she fumbles around with an answer he would like me to say its a yes or no answer.
First let me ask, do you want to save the M or are you done? Because you also posted this:
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I think I left out a key part. Before I left for storm I had told my W that we couldn't live like this anymore and that I was ready to file.
That sounds like you're done and dropping the rope. And if that's the case, that is perfectly fine, it's your choice. But if you're still working on the M, I would say refrain from the texts. That's probably why she's not talking to you. The texts are pressure, and so is your C's recommendation. I assure you that if you push her for a yes/ no response on working on the M you're going to get a "no". She's not anywhere close to ready to have that convo.
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My counselor says she knew what it was and took it because she really doesn't want a D. Maybe he's right IDK. All I know is is that I'm growing tired of all this. Thoughts?
It is VERY common for a WAS to talk about D a lot but never actually pursue it. It's also somewhat common for the LBS to finally file themselves, and usually when they do it makes the WAS angry/ upset/ sad. Sometimes this can lead to reconcilation, but often it results in the D becoming final. So don't go there unless you're really serious.
