well not much action yet...I have the kids...last week I went to her house for dinner and we danced and she did say she loved me...that is a good move I think.....
It sounds like a good step forward but don't let it get to your head. Just keep doing what you're doing. How are your GAL and your 180s coming along?
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Don't give up mate. We all get our down days. Try writing down the reasons why you decided to stand for your marriage. Write down the things you like about your W. Whenever I feel like giving up, I read my list and remember why I'm doing this.
Write down a list of things/activities you would like to do someday. Take one of these and do it today. It's easier said than done I know, and I'm writing this as much for myself as I am for you. Give it a go. Don't let the slumps take over.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
my gal is not that good..I read AS sitch and I wish I was where he is....I just don't know if I am kidding myself...maybe....
I think you're seeing some great signs, if W told me ILY I think I'd pass out on the spot. And the dancing is a nice sign too. So count yourself lucky Just don't let your expectations get a jump on you. Celebrate the baby steps internally, but like Arsene said stick with your DB'ing externally.
well not much action yet...I have the kids...last week I went to her house for dinner and we danced
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that is a good move I think....
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Dinner, dancing, saying she loves you. What do you call "action"? But then, maybe we just have a one-sided view. Who's idea to dance? Did she have candles? Did she choose the music? And, was the ILY initiated by her or was it a response to something you said first?
If she initiated these actions, then it could mean a good move.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Oh crud! Well, as you can tell....I didn't go to the same art school that 25yrs attended. Maybe you'll get the idea of what I was trying to colorfully point out.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Well it was dinner with the Kids and she has always been a formal dancer and she was showing me the type of dance she wanted to take classes on...and then the I love you was like;;;; I love you---thanks for making this easier on the children...I know on the surface it looks like I should be delighted but it is a little different. Now I have to decide about Thanksgiving....in-laws want me to come to their house with D(11) &d(6) but I just don't know...they have not asked me themselves..just got this from W...I have the girls that week so they would be without them as well....I don't want to sound spiteful but I also want them to realize that by funding W to move out and giving her money etc they are really not be supportive- I can't say that to them without being "small" ....I am running a 10k race for the foodbank fundraiser...maybe I should make plans for me and the girls to work at a kitchen...
Go to the dinner with your IL's. Your W invited which is again a good sign. And even though your believe your W's ILY wasn't meant to be directed to you, it was a nice thing to say.
You'd much rather have that than a spouse who does nothing by criticize you all day long. Which happens alot on here.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Just don't let your expectations get a jump on you. Celebrate the baby steps internally, but like Arsene said stick with your DB'ing externally.
Maybe you'll get the idea of what I was trying to colorfully point out.