I have been having a problem with flying off the handle these days, saying exactly what's on my mind. I am trying to be careful not to be argumentative, but to be tough in my stance.
I don't know - maybe I'm doing this all wrong! I just feel strong, like I don't want to take his sh!t and damit I'm going to let him know! I don't think I know how to be strong me, while staying quiet about what bugs me.
Well it's not in keeping with DB'ing, but it sounds like you may be going through a transition from LBS to WAS. And that's OK, there's nothing wrong with that. It happens a lot in these situations. Many people get tired of trying to pander to their WAS, especially if they're being weak and wishy-washy. That can lead to the LBS finding empowerment and pushing the WAS away. Often when this happens the WAS will beg/ plead thus becoming a LBS. Total role reversal.
