Yes. Next time he starts threatening you (and yes, he was threatening), you tell him to stop and that if he is going to discuss anything it will be in the presence of your L.
He just doesn't like the fact that he can't control and bully you any longer.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
My H threatened me when he found out I had a L. He was extremely upset that I wasn't going along with his plan of using one lawyer, his. He told me that it wouldn't be good for any of us (the kids and I) if I didn't agree with his original 'plan'.
I stood up to him and it was up to him to make the next move after I counter filed.
That was 2 years ago come Jan. Haven't heard anything since about the D. He did start being more financially generous though.
My H is trying to make me feel guilty because I don't want to use a mediator. He wants to make the decisions on what's fair for everyone. HELLO!!!???!!! He hasn't made a good decision on what's best for me and our Ds for months!! There is no way in heck that he is going to be in charge.
He wants to know who I'm using for a lawyer. I haven't answered that question. Don't plan on any time soon.
You will find that you have strength and courage you never thought you had. Don't give in to your H. Stand strong. Cry later where he can't hear or see you. Best wishes :o)
My H is trying to make me feel guilty because I don't want to use a mediator. He wants to make the decisions on what's fair for everyone. HELLO!!!???!!! He hasn't made a good decision on what's best for me and our Ds for months!! There is no way in heck that he is going to be in charge. He wants to know who I'm using for a lawyer. I haven't answered that question. Don't plan on any time soon. You will find that you have strength and courage you never thought you had. Don't give in to your H. Stand strong. Cry later where he can't hear or see you. Best wishes :o)
Hey TJ -- This is a tricky topic I found that when I stopped fighting my wife on the divorce/seperation she stopped pursuing it.
When ever she says I am getting a mediator I say no problem and she never follows through.
My wife still lives in our house albeit seperate rooms but she hasn't sen a lawyer in 7 months - why - I don't know but you know what SHE DON'T KNOW EITHER --
Maybe Snodderly or T2 will advise you more - cuz I don't know.
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
Thanks everyone. I confirmed with my lawyer that H's numbers are twisted in his favor and I confirmed with the mediator that he and H never had a discussion regarding a guardian ad litem. So again, lies, twists and manipulation. Wash, rinse repeat.
I sent an email to H stating if he has a proposal to lay it out in writing and I will go over it. The ball is in his court.
And with that I am starting a new thread.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
