another thing and I think I am right in this she keeps asking me why i am not forcing him to file yet and i am like because i am not ready for that. it has only been two months I don't think it is something i need to rush.
You've got to decide whether you want to DB or whether you want to go to this IC. Because the two are incompatible. Clearly your therapist is not marriage-focused. If you want to DB then dump the therapist.
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i am not going to be the one to rush this . Am I right?
If you are DBing, then you don't ever initiate any M talks at all. If H brings it up then listen and validate. But you don't bring it up, and you definitely don't "rush" it unless D is what you want.
