Then, he went into this justification about why he was frustrated with me and how I screwed up in the marriage.
Hi Heather, this ^^^ can be very valuable info (whether all of it is true or not is not important). When W told me this stuff way back when, I made it into an action item to really look into my role and built-in programming and decide what I wanted to or could change, for me, the kids, whatever and wherever this was going to take me in the future. I was determined that, if I was going to go through hell, then I was going to come out the other side better, more self-aware. I found quite a bit that I could and wanted to change, I didn't like the person I had become and was projecting over the course of the years, it was pretty different than how I wanted to be. W's info had a lot that caused me to take a look, a hard look, at the dude in my mirror. I value that info, and the stuff that wasn't "true" or just an excuse? It was duly considered, investigated, and let go.
Who I have become/"re-become" is the best part of this ordeal, use the info H gave you.
Beautiful plumage, eh?
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
