OMG, I said almost those same words to my H at one point.
Maybe start out by saying "I'm afraid of losing you, this is new territory for me but I want to change because you and this M are the most important things in the world to me."
Come up with a plan and share it with her.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
