Go slow. Do you have an IC? A good one can help you with this.

Subguy just posted some powerful insight on his thread.

When you know better, you do better.

Have you read How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It? It opened my eyes to my part in poor communication.

Adinva, whom I have great respect for, likes the book Family Communication by Sven Wahlroos. I haven't read it but plan to.

Keep posting.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss