FY at first when i started overcoming my issues, i was actually afraid, I didn't love her as much as i thought i did, when i felt detached this fast. I was actually scared with her moving out, I may be the one who doesn't want to work on it.
Truth is, I love her alot and I accept my faults in our marriage and I want her to be happy with or without me. Soooooo, why worry as much. I will just treat her like single lady, i really want to get to know her, but hey we all get denied by someone.
Plus even if i fail, i know i got 3 wonderful boys, who i can love for a very long time.
I still believe it is highly unlikely she will find long term happiness leaving you and her family for this new guy. Don't be surprised when it doesn't last and she wants back in. Especially when she sees the new you. Then it's all up to you how you want to handle things.
Are you guys going through with D, or holding off on that?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
