I really think this is the end for C. As you say - unless she makes up her mind to get better - it won't happen. She is just focussed on her gardening. housework, dog. What? It is November - no gardening now. She is really lost. I wish she could see the importance of "getting it together" for her girls.
I wish my children had never had to endure their father's outbursts. I thought with all the time apart - he could get his act together for their short visits. But no - I think he is likely still just an angry person who blames his problems on everyone else. Causes me to think that maggot must get the brunt of it at times. Not like she didn't see that one coming.
Ryan is doing great. I have found a place where he can go for respite care on occasion. He is there this week. His workers go in to visit him and take him out every day. I had reached a point where overnight care in the home was becoming nearly impossible. I needed some help this year at Christmas and the agency wanted almost $600 a night for a worker to SLEEP at my house. It has gone beyond acceptable.
But the good news is this: The agency head who gave me nothing but grief for the past year and half is going on extended leave. She sold a partnership in her company (she was the sole owner) to a nurse practitioner who I like. Someone calm and knowledgable to deal with. She also made one of the workers who has worked in my home with Ryan her office manager. She is a sweet girl and tries to make everything work. She also knows and understands Ryan's needs.
Our homecare coordinator (who I really like) told me she feels the difficult agency head (who she did not care for either) was likely ill (mentally) during all those caustic meetings I endured. She is going on stress leave. That's the only thing I can think of for her behaviour that caused us such a considerable amount of grief over Ryan's care. Unfortunately - some of the things she arranged will stick. Like the $5 per hour increase in rate (that's $60 per day!). And her not wanting to work on him walking. But I think I may have an answer to that one.
Anyway - her last day is Fri. I intend to talk to her one more time. Sort a few things out and wish her the best. (Tongue in cheek).
Ryan is happy, healthy and going to his daily activities. And I am getting a much needed break for one more week. Sigh...
