My H threatened me when he found out I had a L. He was extremely upset that I wasn't going along with his plan of using one lawyer, his. He told me that it wouldn't be good for any of us (the kids and I) if I didn't agree with his original 'plan'.
I stood up to him and it was up to him to make the next move after I counter filed.
That was 2 years ago come Jan. Haven't heard anything since about the D. He did start being more financially generous though.