Tessa,
I have to agree w AS. It doesn't sound like forward progress--just a cycle of the same stuff over and over.

It does sound like you are doing some nice 180's & he is responded though regarding some of the things you say/don't say.

Having said that at some point the interaction between he & OW is going to change or you may get tired of tolerating his "hero" interactions w HER and then running back to you for some great sex.

It might be beneficial to "try something new" by NOT having sex w him as he continues these interactions w HER. Unless you are okay w their R as it is for now, of course. R u ready to establish some boundaries or do you feel you are okay w things as they are? b/c your H is DEFINITELY CAKE-EATING!!!

M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.