If anyone is a beleiver please i am asking for prayer to help he get out of this funk again. i feel realy down and hate all this and kinda wish it would all just end!!!!!
Im such an ass sometimes.... I drove past her house and saw this gay girls car there. They are like glued together. always with each other. she is such a bad influace to my wife....
Im such an ass sometimes.... I drove past her house and saw this gay girls car there. They are like glued together. always with each other. she is such a bad influace to my wife....
What did you hope to gain by driving by her house?
I look at it this way... There's three possible out comes: 1. You drive by and don't see anything other than a house. You feel the same way you did before you drove by. 2. You drive by and see someone else's car and get frustrated. 3. You drive by and she sees you and get's upset with you for not giving her space.
Where's the positive outcome?
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
Yup very very true. I Live and learn I guess. It is getting easier for me to deal with but we all have the good days and bad. all i can do is hope for more good days then bad ones.
To this day I still do not understand why this WAW will not step up and talk like she said she would so many times. Or better yet. With out saying she wants a divorce but saying she thins we should but she can not afourd an attorney. Why has she not even looed into pushing for this. it is like she is just living with blinders one. Or like i said before maybe she realy does not want a divorce. who nows. her mom does not even now when the girl is doing and why. she is very upset with her cause this is not lie her daughter.....
I know all i can do is eep doing for me the best i can.
Ok well I have some news but nothing really from the WAW. It seems as if the WAW is not responding to the texts i send her. Well I mean not responding to most of them.
So I dont know what to do with that..
However It was nice this past weekend. I got a call from my WAW mom asking if she could stop by along with WAW's brothers Wife and kids. I said sure you guys are always welcome here. They all stayed and we talked not to much about WAW. but it was very nice the WAW side of the family is willing to talk to me and hang out. this was not the first time i have hung out with them. They did tell me they do not understand what WAW is doing and she does not even talk to them to much. I gues this made me feel good that this is really not me it is more WAW that is messed up in the head. I did tell them that I did not want a divorce and if she wanted it she would have to file. I said it was more of a moral thing for me. They Told me flat out that this is something WAW has to do if she want it.
However hard it was for me to here this from them it is what it is and I have to leave it in Gods hands as he is the only one that can fix this. But they said the they way she is with stuff once she is done she is done and moves on. But said that she did go back to her ex husband before me one time. so who knows
Anyway they all fell inlove with my house and said it was better than when WAW was here and looks better than her house at this point... They all love me and this in its self makes me feel like i am not the one at fault here now. i keep reaching out to WAW to talk and I get nothing and her family just does not get it.I can say and did say I am willing to wait but i dont know how long that wait will be. only God knows. I have put it in his hands even if I try to take it back from time to time. I try to keep it in his hands......
Ok Guys and Gals Here is a question for everyone. The holidays are coming and i alway get flowers sent to WAW mom. Should i still do this and also should I wish WAW a happy turkey day. ALso I am waiting to see if she will even wish me a happy birthday next week. Its ok if she does not but I would like to know how I should reply if she does wish me a happy birthday....
Regarding the in-laws, be very careful what you say to them. They are in your W's camp, not yours. Expect that anything you say will be telegraphed back to your W. What you need to do is act "as if" everything is great around them, because that's what they will report back to your W. Aso yourself if you want them telling her "he looked awful, really misses you and was weeping uncontrollably" or "wow, he looked so good! And he was so happy!" One will drive her farther away, the other will make her wonder what you're up to and possibly reach out to you to find out.
Regarding the holidays, don't send flowers. You mentioned that she's not responding to your texts, if that's the case I wouldn't even wish her a "Happy Thanksgiving" or anything. I would go dark.
