Got to agree on what people say here. He should be more humble and respectful. You're in a voulnerable situation, and he makes decisions he knows will make it harder for you. I would really consider distancing.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.