Back on this site help!!

[LisaLost]

He has claimed he saw a therapist in the past. Every single time he returned home. He refused MC but we saw my Pastor for Christian counseling until he disliked what my Pastor had to say. I myself have been in couseling since I was 12 bc of several issues the main one being my main caretaker which was my grandmother died of lung cancer. I had a really rough time with it. I may start a new thread for me detailing my childhood and issues that have carried over into my adult life that I have truly tried to work on and learn from. There I can throw in some background on my h for those who haven't been around the bb when I posted way back when dinosaurs roamed and to refresh those who were here. Maybe my story will help someone.

I am not a blame everything on your childhood kind of person. We all have rough stories I am sure but it helps to get it out and also helps others realize that they aren't alone. My h or should I say stbx is one who blames everything on his childhood which while hurtful and rough he has control over how he heals now.
He has broken down and admitted that he has a problem with sex, porn etc. but doesn't want to seek help. He says the right girl will fix him.

My sister is a forensic psychologist and has known him 15 plus years. She has seen his behaviors and blame shifting and more. She recently told me she would classify him as a narcissistic sociopath. Based both on his adult behaviors and his childhood experiences. She has explained to me that people with those issues lack empathy and the ability to truly love. All the info she sent me fits him to a tee.

I know this bb is for saving marriages and I wish I could save mine but not at the cost of losing myself or harming my children. I want to DB to save myself and also follow and learn from Michelle and others to prepare myself for my future spouse.

Newcomers. Marriages can be saved. DB works for you and can change your marriage. Mine failed bc my stbx it seems has mental issues he refuses to address. Keep trying everyone. Follow the steps and stand for your marriage. I think my stbx is the exception and not the rule.


I welcome any questions and want to offer help and support. So many helped me.

With love,
Lisa