You are absolutely right FY. The thing is, a lot of it feels like a game. It's difficult to do it if you're not into playing games but the whole "act as if" and be mysterious and even PMA to a certain extent are all part of a big trick not only to "fool" your W into holding off for a bit (if not coming back) but to fool yourself into getting back up.
The thing is,these tools are just that. Tools meant to help us get out of a rut and become better people which in turn might get our S to reconsider their position. I guess if you fake your changes you are indeed playing a dishonest game but if your changes are real and lasting, then you have a chance at building a genuine and lasting relationship.
Cheers mate!
Well put Arsene. I'm not saying that I'm totaly against all gaming over here, just that much of it rubs me the wrong way. It not only seems dishonest as you say, but our spouses know us so well that they are likely to see right through any silly game anyway.
Just be my new self is my plan.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
You are absolutely right FY. The thing is, a lot of it feels like a game. It's difficult to do it if you're not into playing games but the whole "act as if" and be mysterious and even PMA to a certain extent are all part of a big trick not only to "fool" your W into holding off for a bit (if not coming back) but to fool yourself into getting back up. 
