Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

[Arsene]

"My biggest concern all along has been that I would move along and THEN W would want to come back. It's a real conundrum because most of the old timers here will tell you that you really do have to drop the rope and move on before the WAS considers returning, so in essence what they're saying is "you have to quit loving the WAS before they'll start loving you again." But then what LBS wants to open themselves up to the possibility of going through all that misery again? Once I turn that love off, do I really want to turn it back on again? It's a tough question."

Yeah, I guess you then become the WAS and they become the LBS. The thing is, after all this time DBing, you would know all the LBS tricks and would be very difficult to fool.