He's Just Not That Into You

[mamabird]

Woke up today feeling like we just need to "make room" for each other. So instead of banging on the door all the time, it's more like we open the door and invite each other in. MC said we both shut each other out, and it's ironic, bc H considers himself to be Mr. Empathy (yet he has had pretty much none towards me for a while).

Breakdown, that's all good advice you're giving. I hear others talking about "leaning back" and I think that's all I can do at this point. I do think the physical connection is helping a lot. I find it hard to hear that he doesn't want to be in R with me, but yet he tolerates or even encourages the physical closeness. Maybe that's just the difference between men and women.

As far as OW is concerned, I have expressed my view to him clearly and often, but I know there's not much I can do except be the better option. I know that in my own sitch, if H had just "made room for me" OM1 wouldn't have had the power over me that he had. Because, after all, nothing happened w OM1 other than just talking!

I am sure he's leaning on OW for support right now - we all need that person in our lives. I can't fault him for that, and honestly, it's ok with me to a point because I understand it so well. He needs to make the right choices though and I will continue to hold him accountable if he does not.