Here's the thing MKB, I would have said the same thing that SS said, pretty much word for word.
We've all been there, we know how it feels.
But sometimes you just aren't ready to hear it, so the best thing for me to do is not say it.
Where did SS call you an ass? Or is that how it made you feel?
I think this interaction is really a place you need to dig deep and work hard to figure out.
Someone called you on something, you were triggered, you got angry, you reacted defensively, you lashed out hoping to hurt the person who "hurt" you and now you're the victim.
Welcome to my (previous) world! You can change this and create a happier life for yourself.
If you don't change it, you will carry this around with you forever and it will infect all of your R.
You can only control you.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss