I was just on another thread talking about the same problem. I feel it's more important to listen and not be distracted with thoughts of how you're going to validate her. I don't think she wants your validation right now....but she does want your undivided attention on what she's saying b/c she wants a D.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
