Tumbling, I agree w scaredsilly. The classic recipe for driving ourselves crazy!
And, I understand about the knowing what the "right DBing thing to do it" and yet NOT doing just that. Nobody is "perfect" at this and there actually is no such thing anyway... as we are dealing w people w feelings and every sitch is unique.
Don't send the text. It sounds like an ultimatim & I don't think you are AT ALL in that place yet.
I'm sure there will be lots of advice about the holidays on this forum. I agree to make plans w/o H & have NO EXPECTATIONS from him.
YOu already put the "getaway idea" out there for him to consider, so let him consider and BACK WAY OFF. Otherwise it's just pressure and pursuing.
I am a pursuer too...blargh...but everyone is right. A) Do not send text, he knows how you feel. I am same way, but I have not brought it up in three weeks, even though I want to say "What do you feel now? How about now?" :P
B) Make your plans, don't mention it again. For better or worse our plans are set simply because of the kids-we decided a schedule 2 weeks ago. If he asks, then say I am doing xyz...
Do you look back at this convo and see everytime you try to pin him down he evades, is non committal?
I too have fear of losing the connection w/H if I do not text etc., and even though I am letting go of that, I do backslide...made it five days w/out contact-a new record lol.
