Wow, They sound like some great 180's If nothing else you will be such a better person for it and I'm sure your D8 will appreciate it more than you will ever know. Having someone constantly so angry over such small things can be sooo physically and mentally draining.
As for your question. I battled with that one too but I'm done. I'm living for me and my Children now. If she loves you enough, I'm sure she would ask you. Had you not found this site and you seen your W change like that, Would you not have still asked or tried?
Keep it up, Your doing great!!
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
If nothing else you will be such a better person for it and I'm sure your D8 will appreciate it more than you will ever know. Having someone constantly so angry over such small things can be sooo physically and mentally draining.