Staying off the ride 3 - being authentic

[littleGTO]

Tumbling,
I agree w scaredsilly. The classic recipe for driving ourselves crazy!

And, I understand about the knowing what the "right DBing thing to do it" and yet NOT doing just that. Nobody is "perfect" at this and there actually is no such thing anyway... as we are dealing w people w feelings and every sitch is unique.

Don't send the text. It sounds like an ultimatim & I don't think you are AT ALL in that place yet.

I'm sure there will be lots of advice about the holidays on this forum. I agree to make plans w/o H & have NO EXPECTATIONS from him.

YOu already put the "getaway idea" out there for him to consider, so let him consider and BACK WAY OFF. Otherwise it's just pressure and pursuing.