And I Continue Forward... Through the Silence

[Arsene]

Before you send anything. Go and read the boundary you gave her. I mean, really read it. Would sending her a note to acknowledge her birthday go against that boundary?

That's the whole things about boundaries. Setting them is the easy part. Sticking to them is the tough part. Unless you are ready to stick by them, there is no point in setting them. In fact, it is counter productive to do so. That is why it's probably a good idea to make sure you are ready to abide by boundaries and enforce them before setting them.

If you don't stick to it, she'll know it's all talk no action and just meant as a scare tactic. You might take the bite out of your actions of the last month by sending those 3 words.

You say it would be against your nature not to acknowledge her birthday but it's been said many times the DB was counter intuitive.

Good luck mate!