I agree with NITC. Your H still has his walls up. It was almost a year before my H let me see any vulnerabilities from him. And it was only when I finally decided there was nothing I could do anymore to make it work.
Your H knows you are there if he wants you. He doesn't have to work on it.
I don't know what extent your support from friends and family is but is it possible for you to get more involved in activities GAL so you can focus less on him and more on things that can bring you happiness and satisfaction?
I also think he's taking the back rubs as confirmation that he can be remote and insensitive and still get penance from you. Just a thought.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
