Sweet B, to answer your question I have no idea if XH is in crisis mode at this time. He has a tendency to cycle. Right now we're in a good cycle, but all summer he was pissed at me and barely spoke.4 months prior to summer time he was in another good cycle but our divorce was winding down and my attorney had to jump on him for misbehaving. Turns out XH was all nice because he found a way to slip out of agreed child support before it was court ordered. I nailed him on it...oh lord that was a nice fight we had!
Now we're talking and friendly with one another. Quite frankly I never know what to think when he's nice to me. I've gotten to the point I can take small increments of face to face talk with him and more texting than normal. But it still wears on me. Truth be known I can't see me ever trusting anything that man does or says to me from now on. I told him I didn't trust him.
At any rate I wanted to say I understand how empty the home can feel like, especially when dinner time comes. Things just seem to happen and you remember small things you took for granted every day.
Also you did the right and responsible thing by filing for separation! Hey reality is reality! You have entitlements from the marriage, just as he does. So you're doing the right things. It's true that sometimes just the legal orders coming from divorce or separation is the best way to protect yourself in these sitches. Im very grateful for my divorce because XH's wages are garnished and automatically deposited in my bank account. That is such a relief not having to deal with him on the money issues anymore.
