You did fine Heather. If you need to text to start setting boundaries and protecting yourself, this is ok. I mean you have to start somewhere don't you?
I also wanted to add that I feel that I enabled alot of childish and inmature behavior from my XH because that's what I witnessed all my life with my mom. I never have witnessed a true healthy relationship between a man and a woman. Lots of dysfunction with y family. My real father has never been in my life. I had a step father at the age of 10. That relationship between my mother and step father was one of fighting, alcoholism, mental, verbal, and physical abuse. He finally cooled it and they got their act together for a few years, but eventually it died off for good.
So I do know that alot of my co dependent issues stemmed from doing what I had only been exposed to, yet I had no idea I was doing it at all.
