As we were talking he continued to refer to "if we move out" and "when I get my house/condo". He also mentioned that we can still be "F-buddies". Yea, didn't know how to answer that one so I just let it slip.
I can see the small steps we're making but it's so hard to keep steady and strong. Especially when he sent me that text last week that said he loved me and he still refers to us spending time together but his getting his own place.
I don't want to throw cold water on your hopes, but I'm not reading any progress in these posts. It sounds to me like he's resolute about leaving but is trying to string you along so he can do some classic cake-eating. I would absolutely shut down any possibility of sex, just be clear to him that you reserve that for a two way loving relationship and are not interested in just being used as an "F buddy".
On a side note, I am constantly amazed to hear that term being thrown around on these forums, almost always by men at their LBS wives. I'm really surprised it hasn't earned any of them a firm reprimand if not a slap across the face. It is so unbelievably rude to tell that to anyone, much less your own wife. "F buddy" = free prostitute in my opinion. Is that really the best they can do? How about something at least a little respectful, like "I know we're having difficulties, but I still enjoy intimacy with you and hope we can continue that in some measure if you feel it's still appropriate." "F buddy" just sounds crude and crass, like an exchange two wasted people would have in some seedy bar.
