Oh wow. That's not going to go well. Hopefully your H will blame him for the intervention attempt and not you. Here's the thing, only your H can heal himself. Any attempt anyone makes at trying to heal or fix him is just going to appear to him as pressure. What he does not want or need in any form right now is pressure. DB'ing is all about giving time and space to the WAS because they need it to fix themselves. There's just no other way to get there.
AnotherStander, I agree with you! But this friend doesn't get it. I do not think he went through something like this before. But he thinks he is so spiritual and that he knows what H is going through. He thinks H is depressed and because of a carrer thing mostly. I told him H needs to heal himself, but he thinks H needs his point of view to see things clearly. So, you see, he basically thinks I'm wrong. And I have nothing to prove to him that he is not going to help. But he doesn't see it that way.... Sigh. I want to message him and explain again but, I could tell he was very determined about his own ideas. So I just have to let it be now. I feel like I'm even more doomed.
