The only thing that would make your friend so adamant about "healing" your H is if he had gone through the same type of transition. The fact that he said he's doing it to not save your M is a horrible thing to do.
What is your friend's life like? Is he M'd?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.